The best version of yourself – a vision that is seductive, but also a little depressing and even scary. Through the eyes of our imagination we already see hard work, many sacrifices, discomfort and what we often fear most, namely change. But trust me, even a little thing that will be a positive novelty for you will give you the strength to take the next step. And it’s not about the “best version” at all. It’s about fighting for your good life.
1. You literally feel uncomfortable
This is a clear sign that you are going through a period of change. You are actually able to recognize physical, emotional and/or mental discomfort. In the good old stagnation you feel better because it is familiar and easy, recognized and tame. The challenge is to accept the discomfort, because deep in your heart you already know that it means that something necessary and ultimately positive is happening inside you.
2. You start to become aware of things you have never seen before
Suddenly, through meditation, reading, self-study, and anything else that motivates you, you start to have a kind of “revelation.” Problems that have confused you over the years are developing before your very eyes and you can’t believe you never understood it before. The magic of changing for the better is to untangle the tangled webs of your life. That is of course not fun. Sometimes you see the ugliness in yourself… but there is no better way to initiate change and development.
3. You gradually change your whole outlook on life
It can happen faster than you think, but it can also take a lot of time. Either way, this is the transformation you need to grow as a person. Whether you’re skeptical or excited, it’s a positive development in the end. You will be very different, but in a beautiful way.
4. Suddenly you begin to understand the need to get rid of certain people around you
This is often the hardest part of development – getting rid of things, places and people in life that no longer serve you. You may have outgrown it long before you realized it, but you didn’t want to admit the thought to yourself. You ran away from the inevitable discomfort of being honest with yourself in this situation. It’s hard to end friendships, that’s for sure. After all, you’re not going to hurt anyone, but you also can’t keep living with the lie. You need a different kind of energy in your life, and if someone isn’t committed to their own development, it just won’t work.
5. You don’t want to have toxicity around anymore
As you get older, you begin to understand that you need to let go of negativity and toxic thinking. You will do anything to erase it from your life. That also applies to the changing behavior and dynamics that keep you in place for years. Eventually you begin to see clearly that there is no time to lose when it comes to the good life.
6. You have a hard time with those who don’t understand your evolution
Inevitably, some of your loved ones will find it difficult to understand how much you have changed. Those who care about you and want you to succeed will adapt to the change with you. Unfortunately, sometimes when a person really starts to grow, others get scared and jealous. It can cause resentment and even anger among friends and family. You have to be strong enough to understand this and also to break free from this energy.
7. Sometimes it hurts to be alone with your thoughts
The bottom line is that you take the time to listen to your inner voice and what it is trying to tell you. It won’t always be right, appropriate, or normal. It’s part of the price hike – staying in discomfort until you understand what’s happening and why you feel that way.
8. You realize that the easy way is almost never the best way
This doesn’t mean you have to fight adversity all the time. This means you can see that if you go with the flow, just because it’s convenient, you won’t get what you really want. The goal of evolution is to be clear about what moves you. Once you understand what you need, you can effectively formulate a plan to move in that direction.
9. You start taking risks and forcing yourself to develop
The strange thing about personal development is that you long for it as soon as you experience at least a little bit how beautiful the end result is. You learn to enjoy the discomfort because it means skipping a routine you never thought you would run away from. You get excited, you want to go deeper and explore regions that you used to fear. It’s wonderful and weird… joyful.
10. Finally you understand that life is a journey, not a destination
It can be annoying to realize that you never get where you thought you were going. There is no real endgame. There is only here and now to learn to live carefully. It’s not about achieving a perfect, idyllic existence. It’s about appreciating every little thing that happens along the way. It is frightening but also liberating.